How to build a new habit
Once a friend of mine decided that he to try everything possible to become a vegetarian. She enjoyed a successful little less than a week before caving and give in to your cravings. Nothing I ate meat had on her. meatless meatloaf is apparently a thing. She began to feel like I was truly save animals and do “good” in the world. On the fifth day, it sank in a fast food restaurant.
The looks of guilt and pleasure on his face as the burger really hit home biting her and reminded me a lot of my personal time to establish and complete the usual changes in my own life failures.
Since that day I tried again and again to make lifestyle changes, and after years of failed experiments, I think I’ve finally realized. I’ve tried many things in recent years, from fighting the biggest habits, such as smoking and drinking soda to smaller and make the bed every day and put clothes things as soon as that it is out of the dryer. Throughout all these failures and some successes, I discovered a foolproof way to make almost any change of behavior in a personal habit lasting method.
Surprisingly, it comes down to three simple steps.
Motivations vs. Dedication
My friend failed to become a vegetarian because the motivation was using was not enough to drive all the way to the formation of the target habit he wanted. She thought it would be a healthier alternative, a few animals “monkey” would be saved, and at the time was one of the biggest fashion diets.
She never had a chance against that greasy burger, because he never really decided to change. For her, it was something new and fun to try. In honor of the truth, which is more than a decision of change required; you have to really need to change. While motivation is great, dedication is the real key to success of drug dependence.
The difference between motivation and dedication is sometimes difficult to discern. Indeed, motivation is like Termite: a substance with a very high burn temperature that lasts only a few seconds. As Termite, when motivated, we have geared up and ready to go, but burning at a high rate so generally leaves us burned out rather quickly. Dedication, by contrast, is more like a burning log in a fireplace oak. Oak burns hot enough to heat a home, but slow enough to do it for hours and overnight.
In the words of Simon Sinek, “Start with what.” You have to weigh the balance as to whether this is something you want to do, or if this is something that is absolutely necessary to do so. If this is the case, then you should really try to get as much leverage motivation in itself as possible. In doing all this has forced out all habits that have tried, failed and never tried again. In doing so, you’ve made it more likely that habits that remain to become just that, ongoing daily habits.
A great way to take a final decision is what marketers call “Ben Franklin close.” Take a piece of paper and draw a straight line down the middle. On the left side of the line, write all the benefits that would result from the formation of the new habit you want to be. Once this is done, they move to the right side of the page and a list of all the ways, if any, forming this new habit will have a negative impact on your life.
Now, imagine you are older. The later you can imagine, the clearer the results will be. Portends that if you decide not to change the habit and let herself feel any pain, discomfort, emotional distress, or even loss. If the idea that suffering is too much for you, then your choice is to change that habit for the sake of his body, mind and soul. With that decision to change the step one is complete.
The decision has been made and can not wait to make your new habit a reality. While preparation is there, it takes a lot more than that to form a habit. It’s like joining a detachment of special forces of the armed forces. You can hear the stories and pass all the tests, but the first day of training and more than likely going to ring the bell. Preparation for something is only a small part of the puzzle.
You can not form habits in one day.
trust me, I tried and fell.
Patience is a virtue because some habits can take a long time to really engrain in your lifestyle.
always start slowly when it comes to implementing any new habit. Baby steps are crucial to make changes to your lifestyle. If the habit you would like to learn is to cook instead of eating out, is simply to make a peanut butter and jelly, for starters. When I started cooking for myself, I had to abandon all preconceived notions about what actually constitutes cooking.
had to force myself to believe that making a bowl of cereal was “cooking”. As I was better about my habit, my definition of cooking extended to, over time, cover and cook three full course meals. The goal is to find the smallest starting point you can imagine and find something less than to start. If you are really committed to the formation of this new habit, and you can not allow excuses and delays to derail your goal.
Give him time
As stated earlier, habits can not be formed in one day. Studies have shown that at least three weeks to ingrain new habits in your mind. With that being said they were trying to always exceed by more than thirty days before declaring any trial a failure or increase the scope of which involves the habit. Each month is a good mile marker for re-evaluation, improvement, or pulling away from new habits.
Charles Noble said it best; “First we make our habits, our habits make us.” Make habits within their habits to help achieve their goals. Little things like set his training suit in a place where it is seen in the morning can be a great motivator when you exercise daily is a habit you want to be.
While you may want to assume that you are trying something new, do not. Do not tell anyone about your progress makes satisfaction to achieve its objective and be able to say with pride that you accomplished a whole makes more apt to promote and realize success.