Children are angry with criticism. They take it as a personal attack. Children should be treated with respect and should be taught to accept criticism with positive mood. Critism can be constructive if the message is transmitted in a right way.
Children do not easily take criticism. Very often they resort to defensive, angry and start sulking. This in turn even more irritated, causing them shouting and insisting that “better learn to accept criticism, or otherwise.”
Here it is five points to keep in mind when criticizing your child, leading to destructive and constructive not critical.
If your child has behaved in an irresponsible manner, for example, if you have not elapsed an urgent message to you, I do not get started about how you have to start learning how to be responsible. Keep the conference. This time, just sit him and say that because it was not in the message, no one arrives at the airport in time to pick up the grandmother, and had to go home and just a taxi, pay a lot of money and collect all bags herself. Poor Grandma! First, focus on the particular situation in question. you do not throw a personality immediate attack.
reach a solution of
But instead of finding a solution itself, let it come of his son. Now that your child knows what he did was wrong, asking him to come to a solution for this not to happen again. In the example given above, the solution is simple. A friendly message board with a bright marker attached should do the trick. Let the suggestion come from him. Ask your child if you forget to write messages down once you’ve given him such good advice. Better yet, take with you and allow you to choose a board itself. This will make them feel more involved.
When criticize, sit down and have a heart to heart with your child. This will take some time, so choose a time when it is appropriate. Do not interrupt when you’re watching your favorite TV show. Talk to him when it is free and in a state of very cheerful mood.
Make sure your child understands what you’re trying to say. ask you to repeat what you just said, and ask him if he agrees with you. Take your opinion on every step of the way. It is an open debate that is taking with your child. Make sure your child is not taking it as a personal attack. Phrases like “I always mess! When you learn! Should be avoided at all costs.
draw attention to himself
instead of saying, “Why did not you call and say he would be late, ‘try saying.” I was worried because I knew where he was, and if you were okay’ Remember, when you are criticizing your child, and if you want to learn some experience, it is imperative to talk to him, and not him.