So … is at that time its relationship in which you and your love are considering taking the next big step: moving in together. It is a major milestone in any relationship timeline, and although it is a very interesting step, there is a lot that goes into it. Recently, I saw a question reader come to ask how he knew when it was right to move with William moment, and made me think that this issue would be a great Question Lauren position. Since the idea of moving in together generates a lot of different thoughts and opinions, I wanted to break the 10 important questions to ask yourself before moving with her boyfriend. I recommend asking yourself the following questions and have an open discussion about them with your partner. I feel pretty sure that if you really think and reflect on them, you will have your answer! Without further ado, here is my list of 10 questions to ask yourself before going on …
1. I’m doing it for the right reasons?
In my opinion, this is the first and most important question you should ask yourself before going to live together. Are they moving with this person because you see it as the next step in the relationship and you want to share your life with them? Or you do because it is economically convenient? If you’re doing it for convenience, that is fine, you just want to make sure that define the reasons that their expectations will follow. Too many times I’ve seen friends move in because they do not want to pay for both rent, and they say it’s casual. But then there can be no expectation of a larger step in the relationship, which is complicated and confusing. Make sure you are moving for the right reasons and have talked about it so that the two are on the same page before cohabiting.
2. Do you have a financial plan?
I know it’s not very romantic, but making a financial plan is probably the biggest thing that the second should consider when moving in together. It is a very good idea to find out who will pay for what accounts, decide which expenses will be together, etc. Some of the biggest discussions in relationships can come from not being on the same page with finances, so I highly recommend getting squared away in your financial plan before bunking.
3. Do you have the same definition of “clean”?
This may seem trivial, but you’d be surprised to learn a key can easily be expelled in a relationship on the little things like dirty dishes in the sink. If you are a clean person who has lived with a partner messy room, or if you are a person with a more relaxed attitude about the order that has lived with a neat freak, you probably know how to drain these differences can be. Make sure you are clear in your meaningful definition of “clean” other before they lived together so you know what to expect.
4. Do you have the same health habits?
Knowing how healthy or not your partner is seems minor but very important factor is lifestyle. It is what they eat junk food every day, while you are an avid yogi? Would you like ice cream in the freezer at all times while he would not be caught dead with matter? Knowing the answer to this question will minimize stress when it comes to grocery shopping, sharing meals and physical activity together. It could also make the importance of their health habits are and understand how much dictate your happiness.
5. What do you like to entertain?
If you are the type of person who likes to have friends over every weekend and her boyfriend prefers quiet time and marathons film, this difference might be something to consider before cohabitation. If you have a different view of how often you like to entertain, come up with some rules about how often you will have friends and how often you will have downtime. And certainly weekday talk too entertain your love may prefer to have your hen nights watching wine at a friend’s house instead of their own.
6. Do you have a game plan for your pets?
For all you pet owners out there, this is a great question to ask yourself: Is your partner on board with your pet? When moving together, the mascot of a person automatically becomes an animal joint company. Responsibilities will be shared, regardless of whether that was his intention. Home late from work? It is likely to call your partner to talk to the dog for a walk … and vice versa if your love is having a furry friend. Make sure you have wondered if his game plan for your pet is written in stone before signing the joint tenancy.
7. Are you willing to commit to that level of relationship?
sounds redundant and obvious, but knowing what level of relationship you are committing to is a big step when it is moving together. Although it sounds obvious, make sure you realize that living together is a big step and it will cause big changes (both good and challenging) in their relationship. Make sure your answer to this question is “yes”!
8. Are your compatible schedules?
Programming is important when you live with someone. Do you and your partner works a 9 to 5 job? Or, can one of you have a creative work that can be ’til the early hours of the morning? Regardless of how similar or different are their schedules, it’s good to talk about things like when you usually go to bed, what time you wake up, how late you stay out on weekends, etc.
9. Do you trust this person?
Since you will be sharing a whole new element of your life with this person cohabiting, you want to make sure you have a large base of confidence in them. Trust your partner before moving together means that you know are going to be reliable, pay bills on time, gather food when they say, help with their pets, and more. Trust is huge. If your relationship is new or you are building your confidence, keep that in mind. They can consider waiting a little longer until confidence is built before moving.
10. Have you talked through?
Often these movements occur without an important conversation and can be easy to get caught up in the excitement of it. There will be parts of your life comfortable, every day that you will have to compromise to make this move, many of whom have not covered in this post. You can sleep with the TV on? Do you know what you are bringing furniture for their new joint space? Once you know all the answers to the questions I asked you earlier, the next step is to sit down with your partner and talk through. When you know where each other stands in finance, pets and everything else, the transition of its movement will be much more exciting and effortless and know that you’re doing it for the right reasons. And remember, if you have questions or hesitations, coexistence makes much more difficult to break.
I hope thinking through these 10 questions will help you reach the correct answer if you are wondering whether to go live with your partner. Shacking is a big decision, but in the end if you take time for yourself to think about it, you will know when the time is right!
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