Unfortunately cattiness compliments, passive, aggressive ambiguous excavations, rants and everything out bullying is not limited to just children and adolescents. Adults are guilty of these behaviors “hater” and we see that play out in different parts of our lives. Friends and colleagues to family members and even our spouses, people are constantly pulling shadow. Dr. Sanam Hafeez Psyd a member of the faculty and teaching neuropsychologist based at Columbia University in New York, share a list of the 4 types of enemies, and offers expert advice on how to handle them.
4 types of enemies and how to address them
1. The jealous friend.
This is the friend who loves you around and seems interested in knowing what you are doing. They say they want the best for you, but when great things in your way to shed the excavations and things take a negative way. Get a promotion at work and met with, “Oh, now that you never see your husband, be careful, women watch it all the time.” Losing 10 pounds and they will say, “Well do not get rid of your old clothes in case you recover and then some.” Dr. Hafeez, “the best way to handle the jealous friend is coping with it as soon as the statement was made. we teach people how to treat us, what is tolerated and what is not. Allow someone to pull excavations and continue to do so. Ask him what’s going on in her life that she has a little off. trying to gain understanding, but start distancing if you continue. ”
2. The passive aggressive colleague.
The workplace is a breeding ground for drama in which unlike friendships, people just put together and forced to be professional and cordial with each other. “There are a lot of underselling and favoritism and a mix of personalities. Besides that there is a general tendency to avoid confrontation. You can not just tell someone exactly what you think it leads to passive aggression,” he explains Hafeez. She goes on to say, “Some aggressive traits are passive, states erratic moods, (one minute are cold the next day you’re her best friend), procrastination, half-hearted effort and even sabotage. The best way to handle the aggressive colleague passive it is to have a meeting during lunch outside the office. get them in neutral territory. Then explain that is focused on solutions and to create a harmonious and productive dynamic team based on open communication and respect “.
3. The member of the ruling family.
They know everything, you talk as if you know nothing and are incompetent and incapable. Incredibly control want to feel needed and look to you to give your life purpose. They say they want to see thriving, prosperous, healthy and whole, however, focus on everything that goes wrong in your life. It is codependency. Hafeez says:… “These family members have no use for you if you do not need the more independent you are and the more we prosper, the more it will resemble what is wrong Stubborn and critic, preventing their Growth best way to handle the member of the ruling family is to create limits. limit the amount that you share with them and gives them ways to help you on your terms. ”
4. The sweltering spouse.
You feel a little suffocated in your relationship with your partner? ¿Cava Hurtle when not behaving exactly the way they want? Are you losing yourself as you try your best to please them? According to Dr. Hafeez, “being judged, criticized and manipulated by the person who says that love can be incredibly difficult to self-esteem. When you feel controlled and always tried to start walking on eggshells.” This leads to the anxiety or even depression. Be sure to have your own interests and hobbies, friends. Do not let anyone make you responsible for your happiness that is your job. “
By Dr. Sanam Hafeez, PsyD for Healthy Moms Magazine
About the doctor.
Dr. Sanam Hafeez PsyD is a neuropsychologist with New York-based license. She is a member of the faculty professor at the prestigious university professor at Columbia University and founder and clinical director of the Institutes understand mind in Manhattan and Queens. She was a psychologist at the child’s school long time. She specializes in providing neuropsychological, educational and developmental assessments for adults and children in their practice. She works with individuals suffering from disorder posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), learning disabilities, autism, attention and memory problems, trauma and brain injury, abuse, child development and psychopathology (bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, anxiety, etc …) Moreover Dr. Hafiz serves as a medical expert to various outlets and news programs, and as an expert witness to provide comprehensive assessments and witness testimony to law firms and courts. Connect with her via Twitter @comprehendMind or www.comprehendthemind.com .